Solidarity Statement from the Polyamory #MeToo Survivors
TW Abuse, harassment, DARVO
We are aware that the Author has released accounts of being abused by his former co-author and other false claims about members of our survivor group and other polyamorous activists.
These stories are a combination of fabrications and stories appropriated from other people’s unrelated abuse accounts. To lie about these things, publicly or privately, is abusive—and it makes it that much harder for real male abuse victims to come forward and be believed.
As a group of survivors and allies, we have given varied and well-documented accounts of our experiences with the Author, some within the context of a romantic relationship and some as friends or acquaintances of him. We consider some of our experiences to be of abuse, and others we consider toxic. What we all have in common is that we’ve all experienced harm from the Author.
We stand by our stories and we stand by each other as the Author continues to try to inflict harm by telling lies about us.
We refer concerned parties back to our FAQ, our asks of our communities and our boundaries published there for interaction with the Author or his representatives. We ask for the support of our friends and communities in not amplifying the Author’s abusive posts in any way, discouraging others from sharing them, and challenging them when they are shared.
Celeste, Elaine, Amber, Lauren, Melanie, Lisa, Joanna, Paula, Rose, and Marissa.